Talking about the untalkable

It’s a familiar story. Don’t want to talk about it. So here we go again talking about death for what seems like the umpteenth time.

This Coffin Club was established in September 2016 following an information and BBQ session at the Men’s Shed in Ulverstone on Dying 2 Know Day. It was supported by the Lions Club of Ulverstone.

In: Tassie Death Cafe helps visitors come to terms with the ‘morbid fear’ surrounding life’s end, Tamara Glumac, (ABC News, 28 Aug 2022) she writes that:

‘Mitchell Jansen has feared death from a young age. The 25-year-old has suffered anxiety and panic attacks over his own mortality.’

“I’ve had a very morbid fear of death because I have cystic fibrosis, so death kind of looms over my head a bit,” Mr Jansen said.

“It was a constant fear, I was always filled with dread, it was like I’m going to die young, and with the pandemic I’m at high risk.”

But here’s the good news – A trip to the Tassie Death Cafe in Hobart has lightened the load.

“I feel like I’ve been heard and it feels like a weight is off my shoulders. I have a sense of what I want when I die,” Mr Jansen said. “Even though [death] is a very common fear it still feels lonely and just being around like-minded people, where I can have my morbid jokes, is a bit nicer.”

The death of his great-grandmother prompted Mr Jansen to take a trip to the death cafe, and has also created a desire to work in the funeral industry.

The death cafe — a monthly catch-up over coffee and cake, often between complete strangers — has been running since 2019. It was set up by end-of-life doulas Leigh Connell and Lynn Redwig, who got talking about the concept at a “dying to know” expo.

“It’s very simple. The aim is really to come together and talk about death and dying in a safe space,” Ms Connell said. “It’s an opportunity for people to talk about something that’s quite taboo, and there are people who do want to speak about it, but they get pushback.”

In addition to Death Cafes, Tasmania is fortunate to also have Coffins Clubs, which provide a safe place to what you could call: open up death’s door. At the Community Coffin Club, laughter, music, food and shared experience abound as members build their understanding of “death literacy” — and their own bespoke coffins. A man stands inside an upright blue coffin designed to look like Dr Who’s tardis

Three points for summary purposes:

The death cafe was set up by two end-of-life doulas who got talking about the concept at a “dying to know” expo.

The death cafe concept began in the UK in 2011 and there have been more than 14,000 meetings held across 81 countries.

Some participants are dying, others have lost a loved one and some come seeking advice on planning their funeral.

Read the full story at this link: Tassie Death Cafe

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