Beekeepers or beeminders

To appreciate that we are a part of nature and not apart from nature the starting point is the realisation that non-human animals are not all that dissimilar to us and in the case of bees, they have brains and can think and communicate and be aware of their surroundings in ways that are way beyond our understanding.
In this short but moving film, Telling the Bees, directed by Australian movie maker, Amy Browne, we find that:

At least twice in our short history honeybees have attended their beekeepers funerals. In 1934, when Sam Roger’s died in Shropshire, England, his bees paid their farewell at his graveside funeral. They landed on a nearby tombstone and as soon as he was buried they departed.

When John Zepka of Berkshire Hills near Adams, Mass. died on April 27, 1956, thousands of his bees clustered inside the tent at the open grave site to pay their respect to the beekeeper who never wore any protective gear. As his coffin was lowered into the earth, the bees left the tent and returned to their hive on Zepka’s farm.

Trust, honour and respect evolves into inter-species collective consciousness. Accepted in most primitive cultures a hive mind is often ridiculed by skeptics in our modern rational existence.

There was once a European tradition ‘telling the bees”.  When a member of the family dies, the bees must have their hive draped in black cloth, lest they leave for good. As one northern European song goes:

“Honey bees, honey bees, hear what I say!

Your Master, poor soul, has passed away.

His sorrowful wife begs of you to stay,

Gathering honey for many a day.

Bees in the garden, hear what I say!”

To view this short film, click on:

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I wish I knew

Things I wish I knewIt seems like we regularly go over old ground, revisiting the same subjects as if we don’t already know the answers.  Strange as it might seem, there are no definitive answers when it comes to death and dying and disposal.  Death is one of those areas of life that needs to be pondered and mulled over as part of the journey to our ending of days.

And so this story is another case in point.  Wiriya Sati tells us about her father’s dying days and laments not knowing what she now realises would have been helpful to her as his condition deteriorated.

In: Things I wish I knew about dying to suppport my dad (ABC Life, 23 May 2019), Sati offers up these insights:

Saving and prolonging life isn’t always helpful

Support and eduation can help you advocate for yourself and your loved one

You can die at home

Signs and stages of death that can help you know it’s coming

Water and touch can prolong life (quality of life)Things I wish I knew, no2, jpg

There are alternative funeral options

Planning for death helps with letting go.

While ever our western society continues to medicalise, commercialise, corporatise and privatise end-of-life times and we don’t personalise and become sufficiently familiarised with our ending, we will be stuck in this current rut of denial and self inflicted limbo land.

Wiriya Sati is now an advocate for planning ahead.  Her experiences are not unique and yet they are unique – if you get the drift.  Each of us has to come to terms with this time in our own way.  Her story will now help inform the conversations she has with her family and friends.  Because she has been willing to write them up and share them with us, we are the richer for her having ‘passed this way’, even though millions have passed this way before.

To read the full story click on the link:  Things I wish I knew


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Buyer beware remains the message when a loved one dies

After so many instances of people needing a funeral, who leave it to the last minute to make arrangements, is it any wonder that the industry takes advantage of their vulnerability.  Of course funeral providers deny any suggestion that they overcharge, but it makes you wonder, as this story by Michael Atkin: ‘Charging like wounded bulls’: Calls for greater transparency in the funeral industry to protect vulnerable customers (ABC tv 7.30 Report, 6.06.19).

The main points included:

  • Calls for national standards for the funeral industry
  • Funeral costs vary widely between states and service provider
  • Main complaint about the funeral industry are overcharging and bad service.

There are some good people working to disclose more of what goes on.  Once of them is Colin Wong who …  ‘runs a website called Gathered Here, which compares the cost of funeral services,’ says Micheal Atkins.

He has obtained the prices from 825 funeral homes across Australia, which he collected by cold-calling companies because not all of the information was transparently provided online.

He said the professional service fee was often significantly more with a premium funeral director.

“The reality is that this is where the larger funeral homes and the more expensive funeral homes will add in extra amounts for things like their brand name premium, their offices in marketing, and where they can generate and add more profits to the bottom line,” he told 7.30.

Mr Wong is also the author of a new report called Funeral Prices in Australia, which he has provided exclusively to 7.30.

The program could be watched via iView.  Or for what is close to a transcript click on the link: Greater transparency needed for funeral industry


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A defining choice

As the number of billionaires increase, with ‘creations’ of material wealth seemingly out of thin air – buying and selling money to accumulate more money – it seems like a good reason to ask the question: How Will Future Generations Remember Our Time?

In this piece by David Korten (Yes magazine, Apr 17, 2019), he asks us to consider the implications of living out a story that is frankly out of this world.  The current story is so fraught with inconsistencies and myths that it makes you wonder how we arrived at this juncture in human history.  Then again, Korten charts the history thus far and says we need to: “Break the silence, end the isolation, change the story.” Says Korten:

“We face a defining choice between two contrasting models for organizing human affairs. Give them the generic names Empire and Earth Community. Absent an understanding of the history and implications of this choice, we may squander valuable time and resources on efforts to preserve or mend cultures and institutions that cannot be fixed and must be replaced.

“We humans live by stories. The key to making a choice for [an] Earth Community is recognizing that the foundation of Empire’s power does not lie in its instruments of physical violence. It lies in Empire’s ability to control the stories by which we define ourselves and our possibilities to perpetuate the myths on which the legitimacy of the dominator relations of Empire depend. To change the human future, we must change our defining stories.

And later …

The distinctive human capacity for reflection and intentional choice carries a corresponding moral responsibility to care for one another and the planet. Indeed, our deepest desire is to live in loving relationships with one another. The hunger for loving families and communities is a powerful, but latent, unifying force and the potential foundation of a winning political coalition dedicated to creating societies that support every person in actualizing his or her highest potential.

And to conclude:

In these turbulent and often frightening times, it is important to remind ourselves that we are privileged to live at the most exciting moment in the whole of the human experience. We have the opportunity to turn away from Empire and to embrace Earth Community as a conscious collective choice. We are the ones we have been waiting for.

Regardless of our age or cultural heritage, this is a thoughtful piece that is worth the ten minutes or so it takes to read what Korten has to say.  Find it at this link: How will future generations remember our time?

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Does it matter what a will is written on?

Will on phone

With up to 45% of Australians dying without a will – one that is written down in paper form and witnessed – perhaps it’s worth considering doing something rather than nothing, If that something is as unconventional as recording a video on a digital device like a smart phone or tablet, then so be it.

This story by Stuart Layt (Queensland court finds a phone video can be a man’s legal will, Brisbane TimesApril 18, 2019), tells readers what one person did and that a court has upheld its validity.

“A smartphone video shot by a man several years before he killed himself can function as his legal will, a Queensland court has found,” says Layt.

“Leslie Wayne Quinn took his own life in June 2015 aged 53, leaving behind his wife Leanne Quinn from whom he was separated but not divorced, and three sons: two with Mrs Quinn and an older son from a previous marriage. He did not have a traditional will, but four years before his death, apparently during a lunch break at his work in 2011, he quickly recorded a video leaving all of his worldly possessions to his wife.”

“In the event of my death, I would like all my goods, my interests in property … my share of those to go to my wife, Leanne Quinn,” Mr Quinn says in the video.

“Anything, any money that I have, cash, I’d like that to go to my wife Leanne.

“That, I think is basically it, so this is my only Will,” he concluded.

A Senior Judge Administrator of the Supreme Court of Queensland, Ann Lyons, said it was clear that Mr Quinn had intended the video to function as his will.

Document, Last will and testament

“In my view there can be no doubt that Mr Quinn made the recording to make clear what his intentions were in relation to the disposal of his possessions after his death,” she wrote in her judgment this week.

To read the full story go to: Phone video can be legal will

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Staying on top of it as we get older

Grandmother and granddaughter assembling jigsaw puzzle

It’s all well and good saying that we’d like to be all well and good, when asked the question “How are you?” but what does it take to be well and good when there are so many messages coming from so many different places especially health programs and the results of university studies, often sponsored by large corporations.

Well in this story by Jeanette Franks (6 Ways to stay healthy as you age, Yes magazine, April 16, 2019) she reports that: The general wisdom was, until recently, “If you want to live a long, healthy life, choose your grandparents wisely.”   It goes without saying that we can’t choose our grandparents, but we need to remember that, just 30 percent of physical aging is genetically predetermined – according to an eight-year study of 1,000 well-functioning seniors by John Rowe and Robert Kahn.

Franks goes on to say: And, keep in mind, genetics isn’t fate. While problems such as Alzheimer’s and heart disease do have a genetic component, lifestyle trumps genes. Physical aging is shaped by lifestyle choices in physical exercise, diet, attitude, and social support. Here are the highlights of the report.  There’s no magic, primarily common sense. For example:

1.Exercise: Brain and body are connected; what is healthy for one promotes fitness in the other.

2. Nurture friendships, not necessarily family: Evidence suggests that what enhances well-being is getting together, not the activity, the meeting up and sharing and keeping engaged with other people. 

3. Be mentally stimulated early on in life: language ability and verbal complexity predicted a lower risk of Alzheimer’s. When one researcher was asked what this meant, she replied, “Read to your children.”

People, Head crossword

4. Stay engaged for as long as possible: whether the activity is bridge or crossword puzzles, mental exercise may be a key to keeping the mind supple as physical activity is to the body’s functioning. 

Illustration by Gerard DuBois.


5. Eat a healthy diet: most of us know that a healthy diet means moderation in meat, sugar, and fat, and plenty of vegetables and fruit. But we might not know just how those fruits and veggies benefit the brain. And don’t forget hydration—most of us need more water than we drink. Dehydration causes cognitive malfunctions.

6. Kick nasty habits: don’t smoke. Smoking constricts blood vessels and may decrease cognitive capacity. A moderate glass or two of wine, though, may be beneficial.

 It’s a no-brainer: An engaging social environment, combined with good nutrition and daily exercise, helps keep the brain healthy. Older people who are involved with friends, physical activities, and lifelong learning profess joy at being alive. Wholehearted participation in these pursuits gives meaning to old age and helps elevate the quality of life for those years.

Read the story at the link: Ways to stay healthy

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Making the case for elderhood

It’s a sad state of affairs that at a time when senior citizens abound, elders are thin on the ground.

In his new book, Come of Age, Stephen Jenkinson makes the case that we must birth a new generation of elders, one poised and willing to be true stewards of the planet and its species.  Earth Day (April 22nd) reminds us that we are but one of many species and our welfare is inextricably connected with their welfare. At a time when so many species are suffering at the hands of humans, the call for elderhood has in many ways never been greater.

Come of Age does not offer tips on how to be a better senior citizen or how to be kinder to our elders. Rather, with lyrical prose and incisive insight, Stephen Jenkinson explores the great paradox of elderhood in North America (read Australia): how we are awash in the aged and yet somehow lacking in wisdom. Our own unreconciled relationship with what it means to be an elder has yielded a culture nearly bereft of them.

Meanwhile, the planet boils, and the younger generation boils with anger over being left an environment and sociopolitical landscape deeply scarred and broken.

Taking on the sacred cow of the family, Jenkinson argues that elderhood is a function rather than an identity–it is not a position earned simply by the number of years on the planet or the title “parent” or “grandparent.” As with his seminal book Die Wise, Jenkinson interweaves rich personal stories with iconoclastic observations that will leave readers radically rethinking their concept of what it takes to be an elder and the risks of doing otherwise. Part critique, part call to action, Come of Age is a love song inviting all of us to grow up, before it’s too late.

Working in palliative care for years, Stephen Jenkinson witnessed what he described as a wretched anguish amongst people facing death. In his new book Come of Age: A Case for Elderhood in a Time of Trouble he argues that our society lacks the kind of leadership we normally seek from our elders.

On Nightlife with Suzanne Hill (ABC local radio, 21 April 2019) Jenkinson shares some thoughts on what it means to be an elder. Listen here: This Mortal Coil: Stephen Jenkinson on the dearth of elders in our society

Duration: 33min 23sec  Broadcast: Sun 21 Apr 2019, 10:00pm

And this is the invitation to hear Stephen at Clemenger Theatre, St Kilda Rd, Melbourne VIC. April 26th.

For most of the 200,000 years of human life on earth, we have learned from our elders. We have been cared for, guided by, challenged and initiated into the world by the wisdom elderhood gifted to us. Our lives and our communities have been strengthened by those who have come before us.

Today, the journey of personal development surrounds us with self-help books, leadership forums, retreats, therapists and life-coaches, yet there is a significant lack of intention to engage deeply with our elders as a key component of our education. Elderhood today is often understood more in terms of its absence rather than its presence.

In a pursuit to prolong human life through everything from bio-technology and pharmaceuticals to anti-aging skin creams, we are a culture increasingly obsessed with eternal youth. How does this compromise our ability to value age and the wisdom which comes from those who understand and respect the finality of life?

It is often said that age carries wisdom, yet at a time when we have more older people than we ever have before, why are there so few elders among us? What constitutes an elder and how do we re-engage with generational wisdom-sharing?  Stephen Jenkinson at School of Life

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