They say that old habits are hard to break. But once broken and once the alternatives are considered acceptable, then more and more people adopt them. Before long the old conventional rules get all shook up and the challengers start to gain traction.

It’s important to note at this point, that tradition comes loaded with multiple interpretations. Who decides for example that funerals must be conducted in a particular way?

In a country like Poland, that has strong religious connections, to not conform, is to be part of a break away movement. It can be frowned upon and discouraged. Considered disrespectful.

This story goes to show that, these newish ways of doing death and funerals, can be equally as dignified and respectful as those of old.

‘People didn’t realise a funeral could be so beautiful’: Poland finds a new way to celebrate life – and death, writes Katarzyna Piasecka (The Guardian, 24 Nov 2023):

More and more Poles are turning away from traditional funeral rites. But what can replace them? Enter the Institute for the Good Death, grief doulas, ‘death cafes’ and music by Whitney Houston.

They are wanting to avoid the ‘church circus’.

These opening words from Katarzyna, give us a clue as to what is taking the place of what was the norm …
Despite taking place in Elbląg, a medium-sized city in the north of Poland, it doesn’t feel like a typical Polish funeral. Instead of wreaths, people have made donations to a local animal shelter; instead of dirges, Leonard Cohen’s Tonight Will Be Fine is playing; and instead of a formally robed and solemn priest, there is Mandes, a professional celebrant, dressed modestly in black, and hugging the family and friends.

Learn more: A funeral can be beautiful